Learn how to listen with more than just your ears--be vigilant in finding ways to listen to the Universe. Don't just talk, paying no attention to what others may say. Is you talking serving the interaction, or have you gone unconscious and your mouth is moving on its own? Do you value others or what they have to say, or are they someone to word vomit on?
Of course there are exceptions--friends can talk for hours, hogging the time to talk but neither one cares, they are having too much fun, effortless love is Present. However in other situations where this is not the case, you have to look at he big picture--is what I'm sharing benefitting both of us? Not simply the words you're saying, but the state of consciousness you're in when you're saying them. Are you listening, or merely shutting down and hearing mumbling in the background of your own thoughts about what you are going to say next? Are you talking merely to fill up 'awkward' silence, or avoid that intimacy? Ask yourself these things.
Many people practice listening from the ego. One way that I am talking about is out of a sense of guilt. Feeling guilt for speaking too much is still focus on a small, outmoded set of beliefs about who you are and does not apply to this moment. Authentic listening happens when you cast off those beliefs and listen with your heart, to the other's heart.
A way you can develop the ability to listen is to truly listen to your own heart. What do you desire from life, on the deepest level, and what will it take to get there? You cannot know these things without listening to your heart. Furthermore, listening to your own heart should expand into listening to other's Hearts, for the language of the Heart truly is Universal. Develop your mind by ignoring all its reasons for why it can't or shouldn't listen. Practice with your heart and body, they will communicate and receive the Universal language.
G.A.B.E. aka Kimya