It's not just about doing the thing; it's about who you do the thing with--and no, I'm not talking about sex here, for once. I'm talking about the quality of the energy you share with the people you are around.
You are feeding them as much as you are being fed.
If you're honest with yourself, and you feel any discrepancy or imbalance in nourishing, check to see if you're centered.
If you are and you still feel it, that person is not the one to be doing the thing with.
It's not something either you or they should consider a personal affront. It is a matter of vibration, of feeling fullness in yourself, the relationship, and the activities you take part in.
Keep it gangsta, folks.